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The launch of Parental Alienation Direct
on Parental Alienation Awareness Day - April 25 2016

PAA day is the date when the issue of alienation of children from a loving parent is highlighted across the world.  In the UK, where PA is only just starting to be accepted by the Family Courts, there is a long way to go before family services recognise the problem for what it is, the abuse of a child and their right to loving relationships with both of their parents and the wider family after separation.

Parental Alienation (PA) takes place when one parent, through their behaviour and attitudes, causes the child to be alienated or estranged from the other parent. This is often seen in the context of divorce or parental separation.  The alienating parent - usually the one with whom the child spends the most time - may very openly or quite covertly literally infect the child's mind with poisoning thoughts about the other parent.  Sometimes it is even almost unconscious...

...but the child observes the alienating parent's hatred and hostility towards the other parent and aligns itself with the hostility of the alienating parent.  The end result is an induced peculiar cult-like belief by the child that the alienated parent is evil, nasty, etc, even if the alienated parent is a kind and loving person and is guilty only of wanting to support and spend time with their child like any other normal parent. 

PA is the clear result of the failure of one or sometimes both parents to behave responsibly as parents to set aside their separation issues and to focus on giving the child loving support from both parents. Often it is plainly abuse of the child through the wanton destruction of its love for a parent with whom they previously had a warm and caring relationship.  Although either parent may alienate the other, we do find that in most cases it is dad who is targeted and excluded at least in part owing to traditional and stereotypical gender beliefs.

The effects of Parental Alienation can last a lifetime with the parent and child(ren) never becoming reconciled. This can result in depression and anger and almost certainly makes forming other relationships hard for the child - and for both parents.

The alienated parent feels the loss of their child regardless of whether they are a dad or a mum and the also feel incredibly hurt by the injustice of a system which seems rarely to address the alienation when it is taking place - sometimes appearing to reward the alienating parent for their behaviour or just ignoring clear evidence of PA altogether. The misery of losing a child in this or any other way cannot be overstated.

Grandparents and wider family and friends are also usually affected through this process.

The launch of Parental Alienation Direct

Parental Alienation Direct will provide for parents a safe space where they can seek help as well as give it to other parents who are experiencing the loss of a child. Parents will be able to access information, reading lists, useful links and forums to help them to understand and cope with the problem. Practical help in the form of webinars will eventually be made available, the site will be run by Karen and Nick Woodall who are the authors of the handbook for parents entitled 'Understanding Parental Alienation: Learning to Cope, Helping to Heal' (publication date summer 2016).

The new self help site will be up and running properly in June 2016 and the forums will be available from July onwards. The blog run by Karen Woodall since 2009 on the topic of alienation and family separation will be featured on the site along with writing by Nick Woodall and regular invited guests.

Parental Alienation Direct is a commitment to supporting parents and wider family members who are suffering, to find help and support and improve their prospects of reuniting with their lost child.  It offers a safe space to a large but often invisible and misunderstood population of parents who are known to suffer complex trauma from both the loss of their children and their experience of the family court.  Whilst the site will be run from the UK, it will have a global feel and will offer as much information from across the world as possible. It is hoped that invited international guests will bring their expertise to the site in order to meet the needs of as many families as possible around the world.

Their site will be launched via Karen Woodall's blog on Monday 25th April 2016.

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