|Newsletter 18 May 2022|
Welcome to our 1st April issue.
KOSHER AND JOYOUS PASSOVER
CLB Seminar - Coping with Stress and Findings of Fact
By way of addressing this, our Central London Branch (CLB) have arranged to hold a seminar that focuses on the issues of coping with the stress of contact denial and litigation and Finding of Fact Hearings that have become a bigger part of the family court landscape since legal aid was restricted to those alleging domestic abuse. The seminar can be booked for £20 here.
No-Fault Divorce - Is it going to reduce conflict?
'No-fault' divorce legislation came into force on 6th April. FNF were interviewed for this...
More information is here: 'No-Fault Divorce' - FNF BBC Radio Interview
On the subject of reducing conflict below are some useful links.
Useful FNF articles to recucing conflict are below.
Government offering £500 towards the cost of mediation - see our guidance on getting the most out of it
Or, if you receive hostile emails, texts or letters from your ex?
Bill Eddy, lawyer, therapist, mediator, Training Director of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego says use the BIFF method of responding: BRIEF, INFORMATIVE, FRIENDLY AND FIRM.
Bill Eddy offers sound advice in his article in Psychology Today. It will help keep temperatures down, help you focus on what is important (your children), reduce future hostile correspondence.
If things escalate anyway and you end up having to rely on the family court, you'll not only have been, but be seen to have been the one who made all the effort to do the right things in the right way. That is likely to serve you well. Judges rarely think that the best option is to rely on them to make decisions first.
The message from us is do everything you can to stay out of court (and keep copies of correspondence just in case.)
Why consider alternatives to court?
Many people who come to FNF think that court is their answer. Often that is the case. However, if there is any chance of avoiding that, it is worth pursuing. Court may be what you need, but if not it will escalate your conflict, possibly with terrible consequences to you and your children. Besides, currently it can take months to get even an hearing date and a mere absence of access will not be considered urgent. The average time for private law proceedings to conclude is now officially 44 weeks and for those involving a Children's Guardian , a staggering 92 weeks! Our Press Release on court delays is here.
We thank you for your ongoing support and wish you a happy holiday.
With best wishes,
Updated 17th April 2022
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