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If you are separating or divorced and are worried about not seeing your children - or worried about the effect the breakdown of your relationship might have on them, Families Need Fathers can provide you with the support and information you need.

Our services are open to mothers, fathers, grandparents, new partners and extended families. We are an organisation dedicated to helping parents and their families continue to provide the love, care and support that their children need after separation - and are there to support parents and families in doing this - especially if you are having problems in coming to an agreement on your own.

An informative starting point is our Read Me First section.

 

Support and information is available in a number of ways:

 

National Telephone Helpline - available from 9am - 10pm Monday to Friday, 10am - 3pm at weekends on 0300 0300 363.


Local Branch Meetings - where you can get face-to-face help, surrport and advice, discuss your situation with others in similar circumstances and join like-minded individuals in supporting each other


Expert Emotional Support - FNF is pleased to announce that Divorce Support Group is now offering expert emotional support in your locality. They offer individual, telephone or group counselling.


Members can also benefit from:

•Free downloadable Factsheets & Guides (available to non-members for a small price), including information on dealing with CAFCASS, making financial arrangments and representing yourself in court.


Online Forum - connect with other people going through similar situations.


•Much more! Please click here for more information on membership benefits.

 

 FNF in Scotland and Wales:

  • If you are based in Scotland or Wales, there is FNF Scotland and FNF Cymru to support you. We provide a number of branch meetings in towns such as Edinburgh, Glasgow, Cardiff and Swansea. You can find information about them on FNF Scotland's or FNF Cymru's websites.

There are a number of other organisations that may also provide you with the information, services and help you need. Click here for links to other help and support.

We would strongly recommend making use of Cafcass' guide for separating parents, parenting plans, which can be downloaded here.

 

  • More worrying figures come out of the Ministry of Justice to highlight the rise in claims of domestic abuse. It is an unsettling coincidence that increased allegations of abuse appear to be a means for obtaining legal aid on the part of (mainly) women, and that this phenomenon seems to align with the removal of legal aid for other claims in the family court. It's hardly likely that since the cuts in legal aid, all these men have suddenly turned violent! In our own experience we come across many parents - also mostly men - whose children have clearly lost out due to unfounded allegations being made against their dads AND due to their mothers (only) obtaining legal again when neither party can afford expensive legal representation. So things are getting worse and the courts absolutely must make a stand and ensure that making unfounded or deliberately falsified sworn allegations in the family court are treated as perjury - just as they would be in most other courts. As the following article implies, not only the courts must make a stand, but the legal profession and others need to make sure that abusing the courts with false allegations is unacceptable. Besides, deliberately denying or subverting children's rights to a proper relationship with both their parents is a form of abuse which must not be condoned. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3435462/Huge-rise-domestic-violence-claims-legal-aid-clampdown-Figures-reveal-assault-allegations-doubled-ministers-axed-funding-divorce-cases.html

    MPs and campaigners believe cuts to legal aid made in the UK in 2013 have encouraged separating couples to make false or exaggerated claims of violence in order to avoid divorce costs.
    dailymail.co.ukMPs and campaigners believe cuts to legal aid made in the UK in 2013 have encouraged separating couples to make false or exaggerated claims of violence in order to avoid divorce costs.

    2016-02-08T12:23:45+0000
  • Why is it that inadequacies in the family law system are taking so long to fix? It's not rocket science, is it? Perhaps more like a need for modern and effective management. Great though it is, it's not enough for those at the top of organisations such as the Family Court, CAFCASS and others to transmit good guidance and great aspirations to their colleagues down the food chain - They also have an obligation to actually make better practice happen! Below is a link to some very pertinent comments from our friend Mike Robinson about this. Please read about the issues and some of the evidence of what we feel should be done about them. But then, what is the answer? One answer is for the Courts and for CAFCASS to properly - and perhaps independently - monitor the outcomes of cases, especially the intractable ones, over the years (and not just the hearings) that many of these cases take to play out. Through the ineffectiveness of the system in dealing with intractable cases, many children lose touch with one parent (usually dad) and the associated grandparents, friends and other relatives. And yet, still no good solution is evident. Proper records must be kept of the often devastating consequences for the children and the parents of allowing insufficiently monitored operatives to roam roughshod over guidance using (or sometimes completely ignoring) instead superficial forms and a tickbox mentality. "Tickbox Twits" and others who do not uphold the state's duty to ensure that separated parents behave responsibly should be identified. Failure in this duty should rightly be seen as abuse of their position of trust whether judge, social worker or indeed parent. What Mike Robinson says makes sense to us and it begs the overused but very apt expression: Who will guard the guardians? Who will make sure that Family Law and its infrastructure are properly accountable to the people who depend on it for effective justice? Tick boxers and others who do not uphold the state's duty to properly ensure that separated parents behave responsibly should be identified. Failure in this duty should rightly be seen as abuse of their position of trust whether judge, social worker or indeed parent. What Mike Robinson says makes sense to us and it begs the overused but very apt expression: Who will guard the guardians? Who will make sure that Family Law and its infrastructure are properly accountable to the people who depend on it for effective justice? Please also share on Twitter with hashtag #familylaw

    F (Children) [2015] EWCA Civ 1315 is yet another case involving alienation where the handling of the case by the lower court was 'wholly inadequate'. Not my opinion (actually it is, and I agree...), but that of the Lords Justice who heard the appeal.
    thecustodyminefield.comF (Children) [2015] EWCA Civ 1315 is yet another case involving alienation where the handling of the case by the lower court was 'wholly inadequate'. Not my opinion (actually it is, and I agree...), but that of the Lords Justice who heard the appeal.

    2016-02-04T15:32:26+0000
  • The case for responsible and civilised shared parenting is becoming more obvious with every passing day. Here's a report from the Guardian: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/24/sharing-custody-childrens-mental-health-divorce-separation

    Divorce and separation can have a hugely detrimental impact on children. But Swedish studies show that having them live with each parent half the time is the best way to help them cope
    theguardian.comDivorce and separation can have a hugely detrimental impact on children. But Swedish studies show that having them live with each parent half the time is the best way to help them cope

    2016-01-27T20:53:13+0000
  • In September last year we had an opportunity to put some constructive proposals to Sir James Munby President of the Family Division. These proposals related to contact enforcement, parental alienation and intractable disputes in the family courts. The full text of the proposals is available via the link below. We believe that increasingly senior members of the family court wish to see modern attitudes better reflected in judgements throughout the land. We very much hope that our proposals to Sir James will lead to more comprehensive practice guidance and that these will help to drive long overdue change - especially in the lower courts where the need for change is greatest. Often the changes required are in ensuring that CAFCASS and other social services and local authorities do their jobs in line with the rules which are there to bind them. We very much hope the lower family courts will take a keener interest in ensuring that justice is done and seen to be done for the sake of our children and of their parents. http://fnf.org.uk/news-events-2/meetings-with-sir-james-munby

    Families Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.
    fnf.org.ukFamilies Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.

    2016-01-18T10:58:29+0000

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Families Need Fathers has been awarded the Help and Support for Separated Families Kite Mark which is a new UK government accreditation scheme for organisations offering help to separated families.

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