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1. Updated McKenzie Friend Guidance
2. Should fathers be present at birth?
3.Parental alienation in the news
4. Facebook and Twitter


This month, we have updated the best practice guidance for McKenzie Friends (lay legal advisers) who wish to advertise their services via our website. 

The updated document (available here) follow updates to the court's own guidance, changes to legislation and the loss of legal aid for many entering the family court. It is more comprehensive than previous editions, to reflect the growing importance and use of McKenzie Friends within the family justice system. 

Families Need Fathers does not provide or oversee McKenzie Friends, and this guidance is intended as 'best practice' rather than a set of standards that can be enforced. As well as outlining to McKenzie Friends the standards and knowledge we would expect of those working with our members and other parents within the family justice system, we hope this document can assist litigants in deciding whether an individual has the necessary skills and experience to assist in their cases. You should be wary of involving anyone closely in your case that is not familiar with the practice and procedures outlined in this document.


New applicants wishing to advertise via the FNF website will be asked to follow this updated guidance, and it will be forwarded those McKenzie Friends currently advertise with us.


This month saw a lot of coverage about a study which had found that fathers should stay away from the birth of their children, as their presence can make the experience of childbirth more painful for their partner... Or did it?

The study, carried out by researchers at University College London, asked 39 heterosexual couples questions to measure their emotional intimacy and closeness. The female partner was then given a series of painful laser pulses, with her partner inside and outside the room. They found that those with lower levels of emotional intimacy, or those who prefer to avoid closeness, reported higher levels of pain when their partner was present than when they were not.

The finding that those with difficulties in their relationship find painful situations more distressing with that person present is perhaps not all that surprising. However, the manner in which this study was reported, suggesting that fathers should avoid being present at their children's birth (the Times headline read "Its official: men shouldn't be at the birth"!), was drastically wide of the mark. There are many good reasons why both parents should be present at birth that benefit both parents, and the majority of parents want to experience the birth of their child together.

A great blog post from the Fatherhood Institute looks at the study and the issues surrounding it in more detail. 


On 20th January, the Telegraph published an article looking at the experiences and effects of parental alienation, or 'implacable hostility'. 

It is rare to see the issue of parental alienation covered in the media, and the article provided an interesting look into the effects this can have on parents and children. You can read it here.


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  • Maintaining a relationship with both parents after separation may be a privilege linked to income - concludes a University of Cambridge study that FNF contributed to. The study found that Universal Credit, Housing Benefit and Child Maintenance are "designed for situations where children live only with one parent, but also operates in situations where one parent has the child four days a week and the other three days a week even though the child is spending very similar amounts of time in each household." They recommended that "Government and other agencies in measuring and understanding child poverty should take into account the levels of household income experienced by both households, in situations where separated parents share care." Please support us by liking this, sharing it, following us on Facebook, donating or joining at Write to your MP with you experience of this and draw their attention to this research.
  • In Finland dads provide more childcare than mums - “This is not about the mother’s right or the father’s right – but the child’s right to spend time with both parents.” sys Finish minister. When will one of our ministers say this? Write to your MP and ask them to. Meanwhile, please like our page, follow us, register for free or join us.
  • Too many children are denied Christmas with one of their parents. Watch this video. Share it. Like it. Follow us on Facebook. You can also help to change this by registering with us for free, joining or making a donation at We are a UK registered charity providing support and working for a better future for children and parents alike after family separation.
  • DISCRIMINATING AGAINST MALE VICTIMS OF ABUSE NO LONGER ALLOWED Equalities campaigner Anne O'Regan and our sibling charity FNF BPM Cymru have made a significant step in persuading the Equalities and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) to change their view and accept that the practice of screening male callers to domestic violence helplines was discriminatory. The EHRC will be writing to service providers to make them aware. The article in The Western Mail can be read here. Congratulations to Anne and FNF BPM Cymru. Please support us by liking our posts, following us on Facebook, registering for Free, joining or making a donation.
  • The Independent now highlights the issue of Parental Alienation and the need for a smarter system of family justice. Please support FNF by following us, sharing this post, liking this post, registering for free, joining as a member or donating to us. Details of press releases are here:
  • Could family justice be reaching the tipping point at last? Is the family justice system finally putting its foot down over the abuse that is parental alienation? This is something we have been working towards for years, trying to push back the veil of silence and denial over this mean and selfish scourge affecting many of the more acrimonious divorces and separations. Over the last year especially, we have lobbied Cafcass with help and evidence from a number of directions, and we are very hopeful about the results.. Cafcass, whose crucial influence on family proceedings is responsible for so many judicial decisions, has seen the light - or darkness - and is gearing up to challenge it! A tough job in an organisation which has denied the very existence of PA for years, but one which if successful, could change the lives of so many children - and their parents - for the better. Go for it! Please support FNF by following us, sharing this post, registering for free, joining as a member or donating to us.

FNF HSSF Kite Mark Award

Families Need Fathers has been awarded the Help and Support for Separated Families Kite Mark which is a new UK government accreditation scheme for organisations offering help to separated families.

Families Need Fathers work with a range of family law professionals, including Family Law Panel


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