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We believe Both Parents Matter

We work for the well-being of children in separated families to ensure they have meaningful relationships with both parents, wider family and friends.

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We believe Both Parents Matter

We provide, and encourage the provision of:

guidance, support, education and assistance

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We believe Both Parents Matter

We campaign to raise awareness and address the issues and challenges facing separated families

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We believe Both Parents Matter

We promote and undertake research into the issues and challenges facing separated families

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We believe Both Parents Matter

We emphasise that children need love and care from both parents and their wider families

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We believe Both Parents Matter

Too many children grow up knowing only one parent. This must change.

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We believe Both Parents Matter

We work for the well-being of children in separated families to ensure they have meaningful relationships with both parents, wider family and friends.

Get HelpJoin FNFDonate

We believe Both Parents Matter

We provide, and encourage the provision of:

guidance, support, education and assistance

Get HelpJoin FNFDonate

We believe Both Parents Matter

We campaign to raise awareness and address the issues and challenges facing separated families

Get HelpJoin FNFDonate

We believe Both Parents Matter

We promote and undertake research into the issues and challenges facing separated families

Get HelpJoin FNFDonate

We believe Both Parents Matter

We emphasise that children need love and care from both parents and their wider families

Get HelpJoin FNFDonate

 

Children Know That Both Parents Matter

Helping children and families to retain positive relationships after separation or divorce

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FNF is the leading UK charity supporting dads, mums and grandparents to have personal contact and

meaningful relationships with their children following parental separation since 1974.

We offer information, advice and support services helping parents to achieve a positive outcome for their children.

Our online Forum and our network branches also offer free guidance of solicitors and others familiar with the operation of the family courts.

Welcome to our new website. We hope you will enjoy the improved clarity, content, and the mobile-friendly responsive design.

There may be further improvements we could make, so we would greatly appreciate your feedback and suggestions.

Thank you for your support.

 

 

Children Know That Both Parents Matter

 

Helping children and families to retain positive relationships after separation or divorce

FNF is the leading UK charity supporting dads, mums and grandparents to have personal contact and

meaningful relationships with their children following parental separation since 1974.

We offer information, advice and support services helping parents to achieve a positive outcome for their children.

Our online Forum and our network of branches also offer free guidance of solicitors and others familiar with the operation of the family courts.

Welcome to our new website. We hope you will enjoy the improved clarity, content, and the mobile-friendly responsive design.

There may be further improvements we could make, so we would greatly appreciate your feedback and suggestions.

Thank you for your support.


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New UCL-FNF Research finds 44% of fathers in chronic stress during family proceedings

This newly published academic research funded by FNF* raises serious questions about access to justice by litigants in person, most of whom are fathers, who are expected to conduct their own proceedings often whilst clinically depressed. The results point to the need for much faster resolution of family proceedings to prevent chronic stress and long-term physical and mental health implications for fathers.

Family breakdown and divorce is stressful for all those involved, not least the children. Samaritans have for years reported the high association between male suicide rates, driven by issues related to family separation, such as relationship breakdown, housing, financial pressures and, above all, fear of loss of their relationships with their children.

FNF have been anecdotally aware of the terrible pressures on our service users when relationships break down acrimoniously and they are denied time with their children to the extent of having to rely on family courts.

This new 12-month longitudinal study was carried out by Dr John Barry of University College London with Louise Liddon of Male Psychology Network. It aimed, for the first time, to scientifically identify the degree to which different types of stressors are related to different levels of distress following family breakdown, utilising a Positive Mindset Index (PMI).

The results show that the mental wellbeing of participant fathers in family court proceedings was indicated to be only just above clinical depression levels on average. Its strongest negative interactions were related to problems with child access and family court issues. The data shows that on 44% of occasions fathers’ wellbeing indicators suggested they were experiencing levels of stress that were not only chronic (long-term) but possibly clinical. The research points to the need for court processes to be resolved as swiftly as possible. Prior to Covid-19 the average time taken for family court proceedings to conclude was 30.1 weeks and in July to September it was 34.2 weeks. These are not child-appropriate timescales, especially for pre-teen children.

Our experience is that once child-parent relationships are re-established and regularised, most parents experience considerable relief from stress as is suggested indicatively in this study. Notable too is that the measures of mental wellbeing were significantly higher for those dads who did not rely on courts. Participants in the study said:

“Every day, I am reminded that I have no contact with my daughters”

“Trying to have hope in the impossibility of a normal relationship with one's child is so so difficult” “I was admitted to hospital with severe chest pains and breathing issues… It became apparent that all this issues where related to stress and anxiety caused by family court issues and contact failing.”

FNF Chair, Greg Downing, says:

“People often break-up acrimoniously. Where there are contested allegations of abuse our adversarial system allows family courts to hold ‘finding of fact’ hearings to determine the truth of allegations and their relevance to the child. Legal aid is only available to parties alleging domestic abuse, but not to those defending them (unlike in the criminal courts). Given the lack of an ‘equality of arms’, with almost all legal aid in family proceedings awarded to mothers, fathers are mostly unable to afford legal representation and left to conduct their own defence - whilst suffering from the effects of chronic stress and potentially very serious unfounded allegations.”

Mums and dads undoubtedly experience reduced mental well-being during family separation. Children caught-up in the middle even more so. Men going through separation are twice as likely as women to experience depression. Part of this may be the effect of denial of contact over months and years. Our experience is that fathers treasure their responsibilities and relationships with their children above all other considerations so this does not surprise us.

Further research would almost certainly establish the full extent of such stress when faced with conducting one’s own litigation where the stakes are astronomical – namely whether a father (or mother) can resume their parental role for their children, for example when faced with having to defend a false allegation or exaggeration without the benefit lawyer. Greg Downing adds “Our research demonstrates that at least half of fathers are mentally incapacitated by court proceedings and rendered incapable of conducting their own contested hearings. It is scandalous that they are expected to face qualified lawyers alone”.

Article 6 of the Human Rights Act entitles citizens to have the right to a fair trial or hearing where a public authority is making a decision that will impact on their civil rights. The removal, in almost all cases, providing funding only to one party in contested proceedings is driving a coach and horses through this. Worse still, it is resulting in thousands of children each year being denied relationships with their parents and half of their families – effectively infringing on their right to a private life under Article 8 of the European Convention of Human Rights.

To address these deficiencies and reduce the stress on parents and children, FNF propose, a Strategy for Separated Families that features:

  • An Early Intervention Pathway to keep parents out of court whenever possible and address contested facts in weeks rather than months and years.
  • Both parents to have funding for contested hearings where there are allegations of domestic abuse.
  • Failing that, for legal aid to be given to representatives of the child(ren).
  • To end Legal Aid funding where courts have determined the allegations to be unfounded.

 

PMI Chart Updated Index

The full research report can be found here:

https://www.pjp.psychreg.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/barry-liddon-57-66.pdf

If you can relate to the issues raised in this, please write to your MP and explain how your situation is similar to the findings of this research. Please urge them to make representations to the relevant Minister and to get in touch with us. If you want to find out who your MP is, you can do it by clicking here.

Here is also an example of a clear and effective letter to an MP:

Anyone affected by the issues in this can also call our Helpline 0300 0300 363 and/or go to our website www.fnf.org.uk for further information.

* This research was funded by Families Need Fathers with half of the funds raised by the FNF Central London Branch.

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