What happened in the Celebrity Big Brother (CBB) house has become mainstream news with good reason. If you have not heard the news, then the article in this link is one of many that will explain. Every week we hear from dads (and some mums) who have had monstrous allegations made against them, similar to the ones made by Roxanne Pallett (RP) in CBB house. We hear of dads whose ex-partners took the children and disappeared to a refuge because of their 'fear', just as RP sought refuge in a spare CBB bedroom. Then she sought to have Ryan Thomas chucked out - just as many seek to throw ex-partners out of family homes and then spread the story to friends so that they might take sides and reinforce their lies of deluded beliefs. Had she been successful Ryan Thomas would have had his career destroyed and relationships with family and friends, at best, frayed. Of course, anyone caught in a truly abusive situation needs support in getting out of danger. But when the allegations are grossly exaggerated or fabricated, it is the accused who is actually the victim. In the CBB house RP complained to Big Brother. Outside, in similar circumstances a complaint may have been the police or a family court if children were involved. In that situation, the target of such accusations would have had an injunctive order placed upon him preventing him from seeing his children for many months, sometimes a year or more whilst enquiries were made to ascertain his safety. In a family court RP's evidence, of having sought refuge etc, would have sufficed to be considered for legal aid, but the accused would not. If he could not afford counsel costing thousands of pounds he would need to enter the court arena alone, to face his ex's lawyer, to prove himself innocent - without the benefit of video evidence to show everyone exactly what had happened. . Then, months later, if the police drop their investigations without charge or the family court makes findings that the allegations were unfounded or malicious, there are usually no consequences to the accuser. Legal aid does not have to be repaid to the taxpayer. There is no fine, no criminal record. In fact there is usually no sanction at all beyond the wag of a judicial finger. All that is determined is that it is now safe for the child to have contact with their father (it Is that way round in over 90% of cases). By this time the actual victim will have been denigrated and painted to the young child to be a monster and someone to be hated. Consequently re-habilitation of the relationship becomes all but impossible without the help of experts in Parental Alienation, who are unavailable to most parents who find themselves in this situation. Often these once loving relationships are irreparably destroyed. Some commit suicide having lost their children, their homes and their jobs. The children, meanwhile, grow up without a father (or sometimes mother) in their lives. They grow up with false perceptions and are likely to become alienators themselves. In most cases there is no help for the child caught up in such a situation, nor for the accused and not even for the accuser, who will often repeat the cycle in their next relationship. If we don't want to continue to be at the bottom of the league of fatherlessness amongst developed nations we need to consider steps such as: - Sanctions for making false allegations - Court and police investigations in days or weeks not months - Don't offer legal aid to one side only - Make sure that safe contact is available pending inquiries - Have more safe spaces for men - Don't assume that only women are victims of abuse - Have a rebuttable presumption of shared parenting - Don't provide financial disincentives to shared parenting etc The parties involved in this dispute did not have children or even have an intimate relationship. Acrimonious separations are more likely to bring out inappropriate behaviours. Nevertheless, CBB has helped to expose the nature of the problems that we are often presented with. For that we thank them. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-6128111/CBB-Roxanne-Pallett-labels-hated-woman-Britain-scared-future.html Please support our work by liking, sharing and following us, by registering for free, making a donation or becoming a member. Also, if you have had a similar experience, please tell your MP about it.